As a thank you for your service, we are offering membership into our private men's group for 40% off. See details and a message from Coach Jason below.
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Hey there. Jason here and I want to welcome you to Help For Men (HFM) and the HFM Brotherhood. On behalf of the HFM team and a grateful nation, thank you very much for your service. I am a retired combat veteran with 22 years of service in the United States Army and I know we've shared and continue to share many of the same challenges. I want to be 100% clear when I tell you that we at HFM want you here. You are trained to be disciplined, contribute to a mission, work as a team, fight, survive, and win. That's exactly the sort of men we need here among us.
As a thank you and incentive to join I want to offer each of you a 40% discount off of membership. Consider this gift a heart felt investment from us in you. What you'll do here for yourselves, your families, the community, and our HFM Brotherhood will be immeasurable.
We have many veterans already in the HFM Brotherhood and we'd like to count you amongst our ranks.
Finally, if there is anything I can personally do for you I'm here. I want you to win and I want to fight with you to make that happen.
Join us and let's get started NOW!
As a thank you and incentive to join I want to offer each of you a 40% discount off of membership. Consider this gift a heart felt investment from us in you. What you'll do here for yourselves, your families, the community, and our HFM Brotherhood will be immeasurable.
We have many veterans already in the HFM Brotherhood and we'd like to count you amongst our ranks.
Finally, if there is anything I can personally do for you I'm here. I want you to win and I want to fight with you to make that happen.
Join us and let's get started NOW!
BENEFITS
WHAT DOES MEMBERSHIP INCLUDE?
Books
You will get access to all current and future books written by Ralph and the other coaches at no additional charge. PDF and audiobook format (if available). Listen from your phone!
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Private Discussion Forums
We have an EXTREMELY active private forum with members from around the world. Since we started our group, over 50,000 unique discussions have been created!
Member-Only Podcast
We have a podcast that we record for members only. Think of them as monologues from our coaches and members. You can listen right from your phone's podcast app!
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Live Zoom Meetings
We conduct live zoom meetings for our members 2-4 times per week. Meetings last anywhere from 1-2 hours on average. Participation is encouraged by not required. All meetings are recorded and archived!
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Discounts on Coaching and Courses
We offer coaching from our HFM team as well as courses for your to watch and learn from as often as you like. HFM Brotherhood members get 50% discounts on these products.
Access to Conferences and Meetups
Our members gather for formal conferences and informal meetups on a regular basis. Join us and meet your fellow members and the HFM team in-person!
VETERANS RECEIVE 40% OFF
THE COST OF MEMBERSHIP
+ NO PAYMENTS FOR 14 DAYS!
+ NO PAYMENTS FOR 14 DAYS!
Monthly
$16
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✓Free Books (PDF & Audio)
✓Discussion Forums
✓Discussion Forums
✓Live Zoom meetings
✓Access to Meeting Recordings
✓Access to In-Person Gatherings
✓Discounts on Coaching and Courses
Yearly
$166
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✓Two Months FREE Eary Year!
✓Automatically Renews
✓Free Books (PDF & Audio)
✓Discussion Forums
✓Automatically Renews
✓Free Books (PDF & Audio)
✓Discussion Forums
✓Live Zoom meetings
✓Access to Meeting Recordings
✓Access to In-Person Gatherings
✓Discounts on Coaching and Courses
Lifetime
payment plan
$41
12x monthly
payments
payments
✓Just 12 payments and you're in for life!
✓Free Books (PDF & Audio)
✓Discussion Forums
✓Free Books (PDF & Audio)
✓Discussion Forums
✓Live Zoom meetings
✓Access to Meeting Recordings
✓Access to In-Person Gatherings
✓Discounts on Coaching and Courses
Lifetime
No payments!
$388
one-time payment
✓No more membership payments!
✓Free Books (PDF & Audio)
✓Discussion Forums
✓Free Books (PDF & Audio)
✓Discussion Forums
✓Live Zoom meetings
✓Access to Meeting Recordings
✓Access to In-Person Gatherings
✓Discounts on Coaching and Courses
MEMBER TESTIMONIALS
MEMBER TESTIMONIAL FROM JASON M.
“I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You”
Those words were spoken by my wife in the summer of 2016. Soul crushing to a guy that was married of 15 years with two kids, one in middle and one in elementary school. I was a depressed, very overweight unemployed middle school teacher and wrestling coach at that time. My marriage was not going like I had pictured it would be fifteen years in.
Fellas, as soon as I found The Dead Bedroom Fix in Sept ’19 I felt like I had been handed the wedding fixing manual that no one in my life had ever even touched on. I was so convinced I was going to have my old wife back in no time that I ordered a bunch of sex toys at the end of week two. What really happened was a ton of working on myself, trying things that did (losing 40lbs) and didn’t work (T-Rexing), and learning how to be a man again and not the total nice guy I was.
I was posting questions and scenarios right from the start. Three months in I was doing coaching sessions with Ralph. I was reading a few other books that worked (Masculine In Relationships) and that didn’t (No More Mr Nice Guy). I was messaging guys questions that I seemed to connect with about their stories, Jason H, Noor H, Austin G, Scotty G, etc. I did a testimonial with Ralph, I went to many online meetings during Covid, I made sure to go to BroFest #2 in Austin and met other guys that were similar to myself Brian C, Vince M, Doug W, Gus V, Kyle H.
I took countless pages of Notes on my phone and would implement strategies that I learned or tips that I read about from other guys. Some would work and others wouldn’t. My mindset slowly started to change. And when I say slowly, I mean slooooooowly. Of everyone that I met through this group of awesome brothers, every single one of them learned faster than myself. I was jealous, distraught about my situation and looking for pity, always comparing my situation with others that were making it work right away, I thought I was doing things wrong, thought she’ll never change, maybe I just married the wrong gal, etc. Not until I started to finally stop looking for excuses and just take the stance of “The reason we are where we are in this marriage is because of me. It’s my fault,” did things start to change.
It took me 18 months (married 18 years at that point, coincidence, I think not) to finally put enough work in on myself and get to the point that I felt like, “Ok. I’ve done the work, I’ve changed a lot for the better, I’ve taken on being the leader at home and it’s time to have
The Talk. If she doesn’t want to change, great. We’ll be great co-parents and we can go our separate ways.” She heard what I said, especially the part of “Yes, I used to be like that, but I am not that same guy any longer and I’ve shown you that consistently the last 18 months. You can’t judge me on my past when I don’t do those things any more (guilting and pressuring her into sex or throwing a tantrum when she didn’t feel like having sex were big ones). You can’t bring up past scenarios and traumas and use those to blame me for my past mistakes.” She believed that I was ready to call it quits if she wasn’t going to put in effort in herself and our marriage and slowly started to work on her things. I supported her, but didn’t tell her what to do. Shit was not easy, either. Life threw me no small amount of shit tests, and not just from my wife. I have a transgender kid that was close to ending his life. My other one was expelled his senior year for having a knife in his backpack. They both totaled their cars this summer. I lost my teaching job at the end of this past school year. My wife’s favorite relative, her aunt, recently died and we’re both watching our parents decline. The whole time I knew I had to be the leader so she could feel safe to be her emotional self. Not only that, I had to encourage her to eat right by making sure I stepped up and cooked healthy meals, and support her by going with her to workouts when she faltered instead of criticizing. I had to plan date nights, vacations, take over finances, nights out with friends, concerts, birthdays, etc. but not always alone. I do a lot of floating ideas and plans by her by inviting her to help me or take on certain tasks. I ain’t Superman and I love having her by my side contributing. She’s better at some things and excels at others way beyond me. She’s an intelligent, caring, funny, loving introvert that needs her man to pick her up and make sure she isn’t in her head 24/7 by putting things on her social calendar. The main thing I learned was that you have to know your woman. My wife checks a lot of my boxes, not all of ‘em, but most. And I can happily work with that.
It’s now been five years since I read The Dead Bedroom Fix. I’m very content where I am in my life. An employed teacher and wrestling coach, two kids very happy in their prospective colleges, a very happy elementary teaching wife who takes care of herself. I always wanted a partner who worked out/exercised. She does, maybe not to my end, but for her. That’s cool with me, I like being the better half in the relationship, haha.
Those words were spoken by my wife in the summer of 2016. Soul crushing to a guy that was married of 15 years with two kids, one in middle and one in elementary school. I was a depressed, very overweight unemployed middle school teacher and wrestling coach at that time. My marriage was not going like I had pictured it would be fifteen years in.
Fellas, as soon as I found The Dead Bedroom Fix in Sept ’19 I felt like I had been handed the wedding fixing manual that no one in my life had ever even touched on. I was so convinced I was going to have my old wife back in no time that I ordered a bunch of sex toys at the end of week two. What really happened was a ton of working on myself, trying things that did (losing 40lbs) and didn’t work (T-Rexing), and learning how to be a man again and not the total nice guy I was.
I was posting questions and scenarios right from the start. Three months in I was doing coaching sessions with Ralph. I was reading a few other books that worked (Masculine In Relationships) and that didn’t (No More Mr Nice Guy). I was messaging guys questions that I seemed to connect with about their stories, Jason H, Noor H, Austin G, Scotty G, etc. I did a testimonial with Ralph, I went to many online meetings during Covid, I made sure to go to BroFest #2 in Austin and met other guys that were similar to myself Brian C, Vince M, Doug W, Gus V, Kyle H.
I took countless pages of Notes on my phone and would implement strategies that I learned or tips that I read about from other guys. Some would work and others wouldn’t. My mindset slowly started to change. And when I say slowly, I mean slooooooowly. Of everyone that I met through this group of awesome brothers, every single one of them learned faster than myself. I was jealous, distraught about my situation and looking for pity, always comparing my situation with others that were making it work right away, I thought I was doing things wrong, thought she’ll never change, maybe I just married the wrong gal, etc. Not until I started to finally stop looking for excuses and just take the stance of “The reason we are where we are in this marriage is because of me. It’s my fault,” did things start to change.
It took me 18 months (married 18 years at that point, coincidence, I think not) to finally put enough work in on myself and get to the point that I felt like, “Ok. I’ve done the work, I’ve changed a lot for the better, I’ve taken on being the leader at home and it’s time to have
The Talk. If she doesn’t want to change, great. We’ll be great co-parents and we can go our separate ways.” She heard what I said, especially the part of “Yes, I used to be like that, but I am not that same guy any longer and I’ve shown you that consistently the last 18 months. You can’t judge me on my past when I don’t do those things any more (guilting and pressuring her into sex or throwing a tantrum when she didn’t feel like having sex were big ones). You can’t bring up past scenarios and traumas and use those to blame me for my past mistakes.” She believed that I was ready to call it quits if she wasn’t going to put in effort in herself and our marriage and slowly started to work on her things. I supported her, but didn’t tell her what to do. Shit was not easy, either. Life threw me no small amount of shit tests, and not just from my wife. I have a transgender kid that was close to ending his life. My other one was expelled his senior year for having a knife in his backpack. They both totaled their cars this summer. I lost my teaching job at the end of this past school year. My wife’s favorite relative, her aunt, recently died and we’re both watching our parents decline. The whole time I knew I had to be the leader so she could feel safe to be her emotional self. Not only that, I had to encourage her to eat right by making sure I stepped up and cooked healthy meals, and support her by going with her to workouts when she faltered instead of criticizing. I had to plan date nights, vacations, take over finances, nights out with friends, concerts, birthdays, etc. but not always alone. I do a lot of floating ideas and plans by her by inviting her to help me or take on certain tasks. I ain’t Superman and I love having her by my side contributing. She’s better at some things and excels at others way beyond me. She’s an intelligent, caring, funny, loving introvert that needs her man to pick her up and make sure she isn’t in her head 24/7 by putting things on her social calendar. The main thing I learned was that you have to know your woman. My wife checks a lot of my boxes, not all of ‘em, but most. And I can happily work with that.
It’s now been five years since I read The Dead Bedroom Fix. I’m very content where I am in my life. An employed teacher and wrestling coach, two kids very happy in their prospective colleges, a very happy elementary teaching wife who takes care of herself. I always wanted a partner who worked out/exercised. She does, maybe not to my end, but for her. That’s cool with me, I like being the better half in the relationship, haha.
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MEMBER TESTIMONIAL FROM DARREN
It's common when first starting on the journey of self improvement to have a surge of motivation and ride the highs of the initial wins, however reality soon sinks in that it's a journey with no end point and constantly shifting goalposts. It's at this point particularly that we can then externalize elements that aren't going particularly to plan because simply we lack the discipline and accountability to stay the course and be consistent to level required.
This right here is where the HFM coaches are in their element. Particularly coach Steve.
My marriage was very much on the rocks and my life amounted to not much more than a 'pity party' of circumstances and victim mentality. Upon finding the brotherhood, I saw significant change for the better however with more awareness I began to drastically overthink and overcorrect to a point it was detrimental to my own wellbeing and the health of my marriage.
Steve was pivotal in helping me understand the underlying reasons of how this occured and offered plenty of simple, practical measures to keep myself in check. Perhaps most importantly, Steve helped me learn that the measure of my improvement and success cannot be measured by the actions and responses of others, particularly Mrs Wifey.
By learning to internalize the self improvement journey, I have become much more consistent in eradicating the 'nice guy' and anxious behaviours from my life and now look for ways to be accountable in all facets of life. The flow on effects to my relationships not just with my wife, but my kids, extended family and employer have been immense.
Steve is a coach who I am now fortunate enough to call a great mate. He is consistently in my corner and wants nothing but the best for me and isn't shy in pulling any punches where needed to keep me on track.
Coaching with Steve is right up there in the best investments I have ever made for myself. I cannot recommend highly enough coaching from the HFM team, particularly Steve.
This right here is where the HFM coaches are in their element. Particularly coach Steve.
My marriage was very much on the rocks and my life amounted to not much more than a 'pity party' of circumstances and victim mentality. Upon finding the brotherhood, I saw significant change for the better however with more awareness I began to drastically overthink and overcorrect to a point it was detrimental to my own wellbeing and the health of my marriage.
Steve was pivotal in helping me understand the underlying reasons of how this occured and offered plenty of simple, practical measures to keep myself in check. Perhaps most importantly, Steve helped me learn that the measure of my improvement and success cannot be measured by the actions and responses of others, particularly Mrs Wifey.
By learning to internalize the self improvement journey, I have become much more consistent in eradicating the 'nice guy' and anxious behaviours from my life and now look for ways to be accountable in all facets of life. The flow on effects to my relationships not just with my wife, but my kids, extended family and employer have been immense.
Steve is a coach who I am now fortunate enough to call a great mate. He is consistently in my corner and wants nothing but the best for me and isn't shy in pulling any punches where needed to keep me on track.
Coaching with Steve is right up there in the best investments I have ever made for myself. I cannot recommend highly enough coaching from the HFM team, particularly Steve.
