A guy named William left a comment in my last live stream that deserved some attention.
His wife of twenty years cheated. The marriage ended. Six months later he was married again. A year and a half after that, he is going through his second divorce.
Here is what I want you to hear before you judge him. He did the most human thing a man can do. He was hurting, he was lost, he did not know how to exist without somebody, and a woman showed up and told him he was worth loving. Of course he grabbed it with both hands.
I did the same thing. Different details, same story. I have sat across from a woman whose kitchen trash can was full of wine bottles and told myself she must have had a party. The red flag was right there. My brain was going "dude, dude, dude". And I kept walking anyway.
In this one I go through William's whole situation piece by piece. Why the second breakup hurts worse than the divorce did, even though he was married to the first woman for twenty years. What love bombing actually looks like from the inside while it is happening to you. Why she went from "you are my soulmate" to "you are too much" and why it was never sudden. What it means when a woman calls you needy and fights with you about your level of need. And the hardest question he asked me, which was why do I still love her.
I am not a therapist and I am not going to pretend to be one. I am a loudmouth bald guy with a microphone who went through this and came out the other side. That is the whole qualification.
If you are the guy who feels everything hard, who falls fast, who needs to hear it back, who sees the warning sign and keeps going anyway, this one is for you. That is not a flaw in your character. It is a pattern, and patterns can be broken.