1. You realize
that your love relationship has a hidden purpose-the healing of childhood
2. You create
a more accurate image of your partner.
3. You take responsibility
for communicating your needs and desires to your partner.
4. You become
more intentional in your interactions.
5. You learn to
value your partner's needs and wishes as highly as you value your
6. You embrace
the dark side of your personality.
7. You learn new
techniques to satisfy your basic needs and desires.
8. You search
within yourself for the strengths and abilities you are lacking.
9. You become
more aware of your drive to be loving and whole.
10. You accept
the difficulty of creating a good marriage.